Video about Jason Mcelwain. A great example of a coach that builds the self-esteem!
Building self confidence
Is there a difference between self-esteem and self-confidence? Yes!
Self-esteem is based on who you are, and self-confidence on the ability to perform tasks.
To build self-confidence, you need to adjust the level of the challenge for each individual – to gain new abilities is building the confidence!
Remember that; as important as it is to set your players up for challenges, you must make sure you have realistic expectationsand that you set up for a high success rate.
In practice you need to follow the principle of progression, where you start simple and increase the difficulty throughout the session; that will allow the players to gain new abilities and build their confidence.
In games you need to have realistic expectations, and focus your coaching on details where you believe the team and individuals can and will succeed. If you have been working on passing during the week, and you play against a very strong team during the weekend, a goal for the game can be to; as many times as possible during the game play five passes in a row, without losing possession. If that is the focus the players can have a feeling of success, even if they might lose the game with a big score. If you instead are the coach of a strong team that is going to play against a weaker team, your goal can be to primarily attack from build-up attack, where you want to score after players from all departments being involved.
For a person to feel free she needs to know both what is expected from her, and what she can expect from others.
A very good way to create a good learning environment, is to set up a code of conduct
The code of conduct must include:
- Roles and responsibilities
- Procedures of the team
The code of conduct must answer to
- What is expected from me as an individual
- What can I expect from my team mates and my coach
- What are the consequences of breaking the code of conduct, for example:
A bookable offence in practice, leads to 5 minutes outside the field of play
A sending off offence in practice, leads to suspension from the practice, and the practice after.
For the code of conduct to be efficient, it must be produced in discussion with the players. If they are involved in the process, they will also make sure to keep the team mates in line with it.
In order for the players to take responsibility, they need to receive information on time, and get involved in discussions.
By involving players in discussions, they get the chance to influence their circumstances. The sense of control and ownership, will lead to a more efficient group.
One of the most important life skills sports can teach is to build positive, strong and trusting relationships, the belief in the own abilities and the insight that we can do more together.
Realistic goals and expectations
For a person to thrive we must have positive and realistic expectations on her.
When it comes to football coaching specifically you want the player to be inspired by the expectation, rather than tense from it.
|Today you must score at least three goals!
||Today I want you to be brave and go for goals every time you have the chance!
|Today’s game is super important as it is deciding the league. We have to win!
||It’s very inspiring to play against such a strong team as today’s opponents. We will get the chance to gauge ourselves, and the most important thing is that we are enjoying the moment and that we are playing as a team.
If you play against a very strong opponent, with your team being weak, you must still communicate positive expectations. It is important to realize the difference between result goals and performance goals.
|The goal today is to win
||In today’s game the goal is to, as many times as possible, play 5 passes in a row, without losing possession.
|The goal today is to not allow the opponents to score more than 3 goals.
||In today’s game the goal is to develop our attacking game through starting all balls from the goalkeeper to our full backs, and use build up attacks.
|The goal today is to not concede in the first 15 min.
||In today’s game we will focus on pressing high in defence,
A performance goal you can always achieve, provided you know your team’s ability. A result goal is depending much on the opponent, and outer circumstances.
The benefit of the performance goal is that you can link it to what you have been working on during the past week in practice, which will be very motivating for the players.
Know your players
As a coach you must know all your players well.
- What are the home circumstances?
- How is she doing in school?
- What are her challenges in life?
- Which are her strengths as a person?
- Which other interests does she have outside football?
- Which religious belief does she have, and how does that influence on her everyday life?
It is very important that you treat all persons in the team with equal respect and attention, i.e. avoiding any kind of favouritism or discrimination.
As much as every person is having the right to be respected for who they are, you must also look into the individual needs. A player who is from an economically challenged home, will less likely have breakfast at home before the game. If you can make means for her to get something to eat, do so. What you need to avoid is the special treatment, based on performance or friendship, i.e. if you buy drinks for one player, you buy drinks for all.
A person knows how much you care
before they care how much you know